Every relationship is based on what each individual is able and willing to bring to the table. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. However, there is a line between what is normal and what is emotionally abusive. It is important to know that just because your partner may not physically harm you, they could still emotional abuse you. The scars from an emotionally abusive relationship may not be seen to everyone, they are certainly felt and can be very difficult to reverse once the damage is done. Below are the warning signs you need to look for in order to be aware of an emotionally abusive relationship.
Constantly Pointing Out Failure
It is important to be challenged in every relationship. Having a partner who will tell you when you may be slipping up, is not only important, but it is natural. That is how people improve as individuals and how they grow together as partners. However, an emotionally abusive partner will only point out your failures. Someone who is emotionally abusive will not offer your positive reinforcement. They will only seek to point out your failures in an attempt to bring you down so that you consistently feel like you are not good enough.
Constantly Blame You
One of the best warning signs that you are in an emotionally abusive relationship is if your partner is always blaming your for his or her shortcomings. Of course there will be times in a relationship when something is your fault, but a manipulator with constantly point the finger at you. No matter what the failure may be, he or she will always find a way to make it your fault.
Constantly Make You Feel Guilty
An emotional abuser will make you feel guilty whenever you wish to do something that they do not want to do. For instance, if you want to see your family or your friends and it doesn't revolve around your spouse, he or she will start to do and say things to make you feel guilty for even thinking about doing something for yourself. They will try to emotionally manipulate you by accusing you of never taking their wants, needs and feelings into consideration. Making you feel guilty about a decisions is, ultimately, how they get what they want.
Not every abusive relationship is physical. Many times people find themselves excusing away the behavior of a loved one because there are no bruises to show for it, or because they simply do not know that there are several forms of abuse. Though you may not bare any physical scars, being in an abusive relationship will give you emotional scars. If you think you are in an abuse relationship, talk to a counselor, like the ones at Clinical Services.